The wedding celebrations and ceremonies are starting to flow. I'm 26 years old and my partner is 30, so this is to be expected. It all started last year when my childhood friend got married, then basically everyone on Facebook started to get engaged. This year I have been to 2 weddings and next year I have 3 to go to..... so far.
Having been in a relationship now for around 7 years I often think about marriage. Do I want to get married.... why would I want to get married.... lots of questions about the entity of marriage really. The whole concept doesn't seem to be getting old, in fact I think marriage is as popular as ever, I for one actually love a good wedding, but as for myself? I'm honestly not sure.
Below is a list of reasons I would get married for (some of them might seem a little trivial)
- To spend a day with friends and family in a positive environment
- To have a massive party
- Security for my children
- To make memories that will last.
- Cool Photos (Solange Knowles - esk)
I didn't put 'Love' in there because why would I get married for Love? I already have the Love part. My list is actually pretty small isn't it? Let have a look at why I wouldn't get married:
- Insane cost for one weekend (although I don't think my wedding would be too lavish)
- Big Massive Huge Commitment
- Fear of marriage failure
I am inherently a very cynical person, so you might be thinking that I am taking a very practical approach on this subject, every big decision needs some degree of thought. I think there is a lot of pressure and expectation with this subject and a lot of people do it because they think they have to, they are maybe turning thirty and think its 'about time' they got married or all of their friends may be married and they may feel excluded because of this. I don't know... but I wont take the decision lightly unless I'm in one of the 'Fuck It' moods (plus divorces only cost about $500 and are totally acceptable in our society)...
Thoughts on marriage????
